Should I Learn To Swear?

I have never been fond of using curse words to vent my negative emotions, because I find this type of self-expression to be indicative of bad manner. My family upbringing has wired me to consider those, who need to resort to use curse words to express their anger and frustration as uneducated; an unfair portrayal of the reality that I was taught to embrace wholeheartedly.

Nowadays, I notice that more and more people in my proximity have a particular inclination to swear unapologetically. These are not people, who are typically anti-social or do not know how to construct the proper syntaxes. They are teachers, authors, politicians, business people, and news broadcasters, whose casual use of curse words in their communication has really forced me to look at all these obscenity-embedded words in a different light.

Those, who crusade for the use of curse words, often reason that they have yet to discover a less vile words that have the capacity to get their negative emotions expressed as strongly and satisfactorily as the conventional four letter F or S words can. In their opinion, whoever declines to incorporate curse words into casual conversation is uptight and untrustworthy. Moreover, the use of curse words is symbolic of the closeness of a relationship among conversation participants. Only close relationship can endure and tolerate the brutal and honest offensiveness of the language.

Although I understand curse word crusaders’ point of view; however, I am still not converted into a swearer one hundred percent. I do believe that there is a time and a place for a different way of expression, that being said, throwing around publicly words that often make me cringe or my mouth drop in shocking embarrassment just seems so contrived for now.

Rise of Vinyl

It is said that vinyl is on the rise again. It is interesting to see that in this age of ITunes and Spotify, more and more people are looking for a sense of nostalgia in pieces of plastic records.

The sound that exudes from vinyl is deep and rich. The now and then crackling that vinyl makes is uniquely legendary. Watching the plastic disk turn and its needle move from the outer rings gradually and smoothly inward, fleetingness of the seconds is experienced by all.

Aside from its sound quality, the rise of vinyl has more to do with the vantage value that hipsters are fond of. Scarcity and rarity can make anyone and anything desirable and precious. The increasing popularity of vinyls lies in its coolness, of which is generated and rendered by its lack of presence in the modern digital world.

As humans in the digital era, though we long for all sorts of conveniences; however, we are also bored of whatever the present has to offer easily. Our constant desire to be surprised and made curious somehow steers us back to the past. Vinyl, an elegant tool to reminisce about yesterday’s glory not only provides us with a retrospection of a time period that might have never been lived by us; but its presence also showcases our rare aesthetic in an egotistic manner, which makes us the subject of admiration in the eyes of others. No wonder the plastic record is coming back, big time.

My Sense Of Luxury

I was watching JacksGap videos on a Boxing Day morning in Toronto. Jack Harries’ well-produced traveling vlogs really intrigued me. From Europe to Asia, from Asia to North America, his personal traveling video diaries made me really want to be a part of his globe-trotting entourage.

A sense of genuine admiration was awakened in me as I was watching Jack’s journey. I longed for the same kind of luxury that he was given.

In my opinion, luxury is not narrowly defined by one’s financial gains and acquisitions, but it is also, at times more importantly, measured by the one’s physical mobility, birth rights, legal privileges, and opportunity to simply be an authentic person as desired. As for now, I do not have same kind of luxury as Jack does. The only way for me to have a mere taste of what it feels like to be in his shoes is through watching various videos online.

My family and I define luxury differently. Although the baseline of what makes a luxurious life remains the same; however, I have branched out from their concept of a life of comfort. My family members speak one language, live in one culture, and interact with the people from the same ethnic background for their entire lives. To them, having a well-paid, stable job, a well-organized home, and good health are what constitutes their sense of luxury. I speak five languages, having traversed and immersed in a few worldly cultures, my sense of luxury is no longer in sync with my parents. It can no longer be contained within the borders of just one country and be represented by my family’s worldviews.

I desire to travel the world with the simple act of purchasing a round trip plane ticket, and live in a city, a country that I cannot wait to wake up to smile at the ordinariness that everyday life offers.

Perceptions, Not Facts

Is first impression everything? Yes, it pretty much is in this era, because first impression; or rather, others’ perception of us, can either help us start a career or make us become the face of stereotypes that are narrow-mindedly fabricated on the basis of our ethnicity, gender, class, or other variables. People do not like to self-proclaim as being judgmental; that being said, society as a whole, we do judge; otherwise, how are we still able to come up with, year after year, People Magazine version of the Sexiest Men Alive list, where it features almost entirely white men?

In the eyes of the men of color, at times, it seems like white men have it easier in life than non-white men do. On the surface, it seems like they enjoy more privileges. Evidence: No matter where they go in the world, they can always see a face that looks like theirs on TV, on billboards, and on magazine covers, and no matter where they travel to in the world, people would often assume them to be filthy rich and powerful, due to the fact that their skin color is representative of a once global empire, whose colonial legacies and historical importance have continued to dominate the world. Modern time Hollywood’s obsession with white men’s masculinity and ideal of romanticism have made them the center of universal desire. Many men of color want to be like them, and many women of color want to be with them, because of being accompanied by a white man, in certain regions of the world, is a symbol of stature. All things considered, it almost seems to me that, when it comes to playing with and flaunting the race card, white men have nothing to lose, until I discover and read through a poll, which was released in Britain just a few days ago do I begin to change my perception on this racially privileged group.

According to a YouGov Study, young, white men in Britain are the most derided group. They have the worse reputation, of which includes lacking in ambition and manners, taking drugs, being promiscuous and so forth. Although the polling company stresses that they are only testing public perceptions, not facts; however, the poll does tell a story. A story that shows, perhaps, the hard work that men of color have put into improving themselves individually, socially, economically, and politically has gradually changed the British public perception of them, and the race relation in Britain, though a few conventionally stereotyped ethnic groups are still prominently featured on the most derided list.

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While I am chuffed for the slight improvement of the British public perception of men, who are not white in British society, I do wonder what we all can do with a list as such in our own little universe. Should we continue to be divisive racially and laugh at the deteriorating public perception of the young, white British men? Or, should we (both men and women) unite to improve collectively our world as one, in every sense of the word? I would hope that we choose the latter. I would hope that while it is impossible not to pass judgement, we should strive to make a more informed one with heard spoken words and observed actions so that any preconceived notions of ours, concerning the others, can be altered and broken down in time.

No one wants to be considered as the most derided group ethically, socially, culturally, and politically, because it is an unflattering title to wear. Oftentimes, we are made victims of the public dismay by circumstances that are out of our control; this is a reality that does not get spoken about enough and fairly.