Compete; Then, Stop Doing It

Most of us were raised to be competitive. We were conditioned into thinking that if we were not just as good as the boy or the girl sitting next to us in class, we would be punished by our parents or teachers, and be spending half of our summer break in school. We were trained to believe that sky is the limit; henceforth, whatever others have accomplished or possessed, with our hard work, we could rejoice in the same glory and luxury. We were told to look up to idols and legends and, be aspired to the way they lead their lives, because positive childhood influences would most likely yield a healthy and successful lifestyle in adulthood. We respected and appreciated all these words of wisdom as kids. We trusted in people, who shared them with us. They were the ones that we loved, whose loving words provided us with an impression of life, as well as a sense of clear direction in our innocent minds.

In times, our impression of life would change. The sense of clear direction we followed so wholeheartedly as kids would take a drastic turn as we travel along our life’s trajectory as adults.

A certain amount of self-discoveries and worldly adventures later, all of a sudden, we are advised by those, who initially encouraged us to compare our own abilities with others’, to start being self-content in our own worlds. We are told that competing against others constantly can only drain us to death and, comparing with others on the matter of richness and notoriety can only lead us to and engender more of our suffering. Being squeezed in between our life-long conditioning and the modern, simplified interpretations of the ancient spiritual teachings, we cannot help but feel struggled and lost.

Most people find themselves when they are feeling struggled and lost. It is at a moment as such that they discover they are the ones, who understand themselves the most in this world. In many cases, things are easier said than done. Undoing or managing effectively previous conditioning seems like an easy task, only in the eyes of fools.


Published by Robbie's Blog

I am a third-culture person who's navigating his way around Hong Kong and beyond. Come join me on this rollercoaster ride.

One thought on “Compete; Then, Stop Doing It

  1. Some people in later life decide to live a simpler less stressful life. Some give up their possessions/leave their jobs/leave their homes and set out on adventures. Road trips. Sail round the world. Living in the wild (see ‘Live Free or Die – Rise of the Wild’ Season 1 on YouTube). Sometimes people realize that material possessions and the ‘rat race’ do not always bring happiness.

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