Our world is a one that capitalizes, predominantly, on women’s sexuality. Taking a look at the most commonly used adjectives employed in pop culture, words, such as sexy, hot, and body-hugging, all seem to provide us with a glimpse into this long-existing socially habitual convention.
The word, sexy, in particular, is a controversial one. On one hand, we all know being dubbed sexy is one of the most sought after compliments of the modern time; on the other hand, under a different circumstance, with a change of tone, what was once a compliment can, all of a sudden, become a reprimand.
My mom is a beautiful woman, who has never felt the need to display her sensuality overtly. Although mom has never been the one to flaunt her physical attributes; however, her sensuality usually comes through, subtly, through her way of self-expression. Due to my lack of contact with women and men, who loved to show off their body parts while growing up, I also never have the need, as well as the level of comfort to dress myself in a showy fashion.
Unlike me, there are many others, who are born into a family, where both parents like to celebrate their sexualities and have them displayed openly. Years later, it is just predictable and very likely for these once children of people with free sexual spirit to act out what comes naturally to them in their own family linage and upbringing; all the things that they had observed and learned from their parents once they reach a time in their lives, where they have a say in what they do, how they dress and the way, in which they carry themselves. Unfortunately, as soon as they do so, they instantly become the target of public criticism. Instead of putting some blame on the parents, the kids’ learned “self-expression” makes them a public disdain and a scandalous subject of public discourse.
We all know that, oftentimes, how parents act in the presence of the kids has way bigger impact than all the life lessons that parents try to pass on to their kids through words. As much as we like to reiterate and assert the fact that our bodies are our own; therefore, we can dress how we want, and any suggestion made in regards to our bodies is considered either body-shaming or a form of oppression, I do think that parenthood does necessitate a level of cover-up modesty. Not every body part that we train hard for at the gym needs to be flaunted in bright daylight at all time. If our world chooses to respect and celebrate openly different sexual expressions and individualism, then we should not make a teen, who dresses in a sexually suggestive manner a national headline on the airwaves.