Mind Your Own Business

We all know that what other people choose to do with their lives is none of our business; that being said, is it solely our own wrongdoing if we decide to pass our personal judgment onto others?

We were raised to compare ourselves to someone, who might be perceived by our parents and society at large to be better than we were. We felt pressured and aspired to become those people someday as adults. As adults, we are told to be mindful of what is happening around the world. Sayings, such as “Education is a never-ending journey,” force us to look into those fine prints of a published news story in hopes of digging out the meanings and trends underneath those alphabetical letters. Having been long trained to observe the beats and vibes of the outside world, I wonder how we can get blamed for doing something that we have been taught and told to do all along our lives but on a smaller scale?

Some may argue that it is precisely the difference in greater significance that distinguishes our urging a politician not to charge ahead with his decision from our telling someone to split up with his girlfriend. Although an argument as such may be valid; however, others would still argue that the nature of the basic act is still the same, which is our intervention in an affair that doesn’t require our input to begin with.

The Largest Human Organ

In recent months,  I have learned that the biggest organ on a human body is our skin. This revelation came as a surprising yet not so surprising discovery, considering the conventionally revered human organs, such as our heart, bladder, brain and so on, are all enveloped in it. Due to its all-encompassing coverage, one would assume naturally that all human beings, regardless of our genders and sexes, would take good care of this largest human organ, sadly, the reality is far from living up to this idealistic assumption.

Although the men’s skin care industry has risen exponentially in recent years; however, the gender and culture-based stigmas attached to the subject of men’s skincare still push many away from giving their skins the proper attention and protection.

While encouraging someone to do something new and to step out of his comfort zone, acting funny or making mockery comments is the quickest way to tame the enthusiasm. Usually portrayed to be the wiser ones in areas of self-care and nurturing, women are, at times, just as guilty as those, who do not believe that men should participate in the game of skincare. On daily talk shows, there is no shortage of show segments and discussions on how to convince men to get into better skincare routine, as well as to adopt healthier lifestyle choices; however, as soon as men start to become a better caretaker for their personal well-being, inevitably, they will receive some gender-based mockeries that come from their female counterparts. Claims made by some women, such as “I want a real man. If a man pays more attention than I do to his diet, and appearance, that is such a turn off to me,” not only confuse men, who are aspired to be a better self, and make them doubtful of the genuineness of the healthcare advice, propagated by women, but they also cause men to internalize even deeper the self-embarrassment that the traditional society and culture have imposed on them. Our society has arrived at a point, where only through equally degrading and harsh self-mockery do men feel OK to put a layer of sunscreen on their sunburned skin.

We all have this inborn ability to be a hypocrite. We declare to the world that we are Ying at this moment but Yang the next. Although we have no choice but to accept this nature of ours; however, we do have the power to develop a certain amount of self-restraint and consistency to prevent ourselves from getting further into the self-contradiction territory.

If we want someone to make a positive change, we should do our best to stick to our original claim, made known to the intended recipient. If we say one thing to his face then another behind his back, our inconsistency does nothing but causes discouragement and unintended hurt to intended recipient.