Holidays are for indulgence. It’s hard not to indulge a little bit more when our home is decked out in all kinds of deliciousness. One of my all-time favorite treats is shortbread cookie. I surely had indulged in it quite a bit over this past holiday season. Aside from the taste and the texture, what I appreciate the most of a shortbread cookie is its ability to bring joy to the indulgers. I wish to bring as much joy as possible to my life this year. Because of this confession of mine, you may think that I’m aspired to personify a shortbread cookie in my daily life. No, no, as a person, who used to battle with weight gain, the high fat contents of this short, sweet, little cake discourage me completely from having this aspiration. That being said, I am aspired to be a cookie, but a cookie of the different kind. In this year of the goat, my goal is to be a tough cookie.
A tough cookie is defined as a person, who’s resilient and has the ability to endure both physical and mental hardships. You may wonder why I am so determined to be a tough cookie at a time, when more and more people are encouraged to adopt a softer and more personable approach in dealing with things and with people. Well, unlike those wishy-washy New Year’s resolutions made by those inebriated celebrants, mine came as result of my past personal experiences in knowing what would continue to work for me to have a place to call my own in this ever-changing world.
In this ever-changing world, things are complicated. Many of us may feel lonely at times, rest assured that we are never alone. We all have a great teacher, who is always there to guide us, and who is going to be there till the day we say “Au revoir. A la prochaine”to this three dimensional existence.
This greatest teacher of ours isn’t that lady or gentleman in school or at work; this greatest teacher of ours is neither one of those two lovely individuals at home, who have graciously and unconditionally given us a life; this greatest teacher of ours isn’t that rich lady on TV, who used to shout at her live audience loudly whenever the holiday season was near “ You got a car, you got a car, and you also got a car!” This great teacher of ours is us. You are the great teacher in your life. I am the great teacher in my life.
Mine has taught me many things. He instills in me the values of my lived experiences. Having left home in my teenage years for education, I have witnessed the obstacles that need to be overcome for me to start from zero and hopefully to rise as a phoenix. I have been bruised by the coldness and indifference of others. I have tasted the heart-wrenching bitterness of the reality. I have breathed in the air of sadness and separation, lingering at the international airport terminals, and I have rejoiced in the unexpectedness of success that my hard work has rewarded me. More importantly, I have lived to understand the importance of having inner confidence, when no one else has faith in me, and I also have lived to appreciate the necessity of having self-belief, while charting my own path at a place far away from home. Hence why I am so determined to be a tough cookie in this year of the goat so that I will be able to experience more joy, more disappointments, and more other facets of life.
Being a tough cookie requires both the physical and mental fitness. It is an admirable goal in my opinion, but it’s not happening over night. Daily physical and mental exercises, personal commitment, consistency, dedication, perseverance are needed for this goal to be achieved. Just like indulging in a shortbread cookie, moderation is needed. Having moderation, we don’t have to worry about our weight gain once the shortbread cookie has become a dot in our personal history. Having moderation, we don’t have to worry about coming across as either a bossy individual or an ice-queen in being strong-willed and tough.
Being a tough cookie is my goal of 2015. What is yours? May your goal, set for 2015, help you taste the best bits in life.