Is honesty the best policy in between a child and his parents? In childhood, I believe that it is. In adulthood, I doubt it.
As a child, we were constantly learning. Like a sponge, we absorbed everything that our parents taught us. We took our parents’ teachings as gospels that not a single word spoken by them was worth of being questioned.
This sponge absorption tendency of ours changed when we reached adulthood. We no longer have that pure and untainted mind. Our family teachings, mixed with outside experiences and personal discoveries have informed us singularly and helped us develop a perspective, a worldview that is different from our parents.
The harmony unites and the difference hurts. In being honest with our parents, our different worldly perspective can be misinterpreted as lack of understanding of them; in being honest with our parents, our different worldly perspective can be misinterpreted as lack of appreciation of their good intention and caring; and, in being honest with our parents, potentially, our different worldly perspective can be misinterpreted as a disrespect of the cultural traditions that we were born and raised in.
Oh life oh life, what an epic learning curve!